Stop Texting me, no seriously

So it’s 2012 and everybody and their mama is texting. This is the age of textaholicism. While I think texting is a good way to communicate when you are unable to speak I do not think it should be the ONLY way to speak. I am so tired of people telling me that the person they are talking to doesn’t “like” to talk on the phone and just likes to text. I think that is straight BULL. I don’t mean to be harsh but maybe he or she just doesn’t like to talk to you on the phone.

Actually if I meet a guy and he tells me that he doesn’t talk on the phone and he only texts I am automatically turned off because communication is very key to me. I have no problem talking on the phone, in fact I prefer to talk on the phone over texting, but there are sometimes when it is just better for me to text because I am unable to talk. And while I like to talk on the phone I don’t like to talk all day, I have a life. I like to talk to the person I am seeing at least once a day, whether it is via text or phone just to check in, but I refuse to text every single thing. I am not dating a phone and I would like to actually hear the person’s voice sometime since I probably won’t get to see them all the time.

Also I absolutely hate when someone texts me a ridiculously long text about something serious. I understand if it is a dire situation and you are unable to call and you need me right away, but if I know you can indeed call me and you just decided to send me a 7 page novel about how you are so in love with me, chances are I am not even going to respond. WHAT ARE YOU DOING??? Just call me, or tell me in person. A little more direct contact goes a long way. In a relationship communication in all avenues is important so I personally think that if someone only texts you and does not call, you might want to reevaluate that relationship,….unless this is a person you happen to see so often that you don’t even need to talk on the phone. And also if what you are telling me amounts to 7 text messages chances are its probably better said on the phone because it probably requires a long response back.

I feel like if someone is really interested in you they will have no problem picking up the phone and talking to you even if it is for a few minutes. And to be honest the people that tell me they are not phone people are usually people that can’t hold conversations or people that have come encounter with people that can’t hold conversations so they don’t want to be on the phone. No one wants to be on the phone when you’re sitting there in complete silence. Find a more interesting person –you might change your mind. Honestly if I don’t find a guy interesting enough to have a whole conversation on the phone with (not a 5 minute convo) chances are I am probably not going to want to waste my time texting him either, but that’s just me. What are your thoughts? email me, send me a question or a topic you want me to write about at and don’t forget to follow me on twitter-
Thanks for reading

Kisses xoxo

Fellas she’s just not that into if……

Hey guys so I thought that this would be a good topic to blog about. In my opinion and in the opinion of some people I know these are some factors that I think let a guy and a girl know if someone is into them or not. Clearly there are exceptions to some of these, and feel free to add to the list in a comment or email me at J Thanks for reading. Btw this is in reference to being interested in dating someone, and not simply sleeping with someone…just to clarify.
Fellas she’s just not that into you if:
-She doesn’t care if you call her or text
-If she only calls you once a week or less
-She avoids your calls or texts
-She brings her friends or etc in order to avoid intimate settings
-If she doesn’t make time for you
-She cancels on you more than once
-Every time you Im her on fb chat- she coincidently signs off
-If she says she’s not a phone person, and never talks to you on the phone
-If she disappears periodically
-If she is still seeing other people after 3 months of “dating”
-If her friends know nothing about you
-If she won’t accept your friend request on facebook
-If she doesn’t poke you back on facebook (lol)
Ladies don’t think I forgot about you……He’s just not that into you if:
-He doesn’t call you or text
-If he doesn’t return your calls/or if he ignores them
-If he never wants to take you out
-If he only hits you up during booty call hours (after 12- there are some exceptions)
-If he only wants to chill at his house all the time
-If he doesn’t make time for you
-If he doesn’t incorporate you in future plans
-If he disappears periodically
-If his friends know nothing about you- and you haven’t met them
-If his family knows nothing about you- depending on timing of course
-If he says he’s not a phone person and never calls
-If he is still seeing other people after 3 months of “dating”
-If he says he “doesn’t know what he wants”
I am sure I probably missed a few, so feel free to add to this list. At the end of the day you deserve to be with someone who wants to put in the effort to actually really get to know you as a person and show you who they are. If you do want a relationship, and a person isn’t really into you or into putting in an effort to build something, why waste your time?
xoxo Kisses J