Dear Mr/Mrs. I am having an early life crisis,
You are not alone. Today I turn 25 and a few years ago I would have told you that by age 25 I would have my life all figured out. And I can honestly say I do not. And it is okay. Recently I was freaking out because I am not where I want to be in life, and I am still figuring out who I am. Like many of you there is so much that I still want to accomplish. But why do we have this mentality that if we dont have the best career, house and car by age 25 that we have failed at life? Because that is what society tells us and ofcourse in the words of Will Smith those “parents that just dont understand.” What we dont realize is that success is a state of mind. Think about it. Why are there people that have money, cars and a career that are still unhappy? Because happiness is also a state of mind and when we try to fill this void in our lives with material things we get no where. If you want to be more happy then dont dwell on the unknown. Don’t dwell on the negative. I suggest focusing on the things in life that you do have and using that as a stepping stone to something greater. Think about what you did to get to where you are today. Do not undermine your achievements however small they may seem to you. Take more risks and focus more on positivity and doing things you have always wanted to do or learning about how you can do those things. I am not saying it isnt nice to have those nice things and strive for them, but don’t dwell on those things because at the end of the day life on this earth does end.
I had to take a deep and long hard look at myself, and I can tell you that I have been staring at the mirror for a couple of years now, and I am okay with that. Every time you look in the mirror you will find out something new about yourself. And I mean really look. It is not our circumstances that define who we are, but how we choose to handle them. I am not “rich”, I am not married, and I do not own my own home, but in no way does that mean I am not successful. I have had many blessings and opportunities and wonderful learning experiences.We define what success means in our lives. I have so much to be grateful for. Sometimes we don’t give ourselves enough credit. But we should.
I decided instead of sitting at home and being depressed about my so called “early life crisis” to embrace the blessings that I do have and to really search and find who I am. I am indecisive so I struggle a lot with life decisions. So I decided to face my fear and just start trying things I have always wanted to try. So far I have learned the things I love and some things I hate. I learned that I do not like the typical 9 to 5, that I am an infp personality type (makes so much sense), that I will never stop singing and that I love film acting. I also learned that I love to write and that I also love to help people on a personal level. Do I have it all figured out at the tender young age of 25? NOPE. Do I fully know who I am yet? I AM GETTING THERE, but I dont think that process ever stops. You will learn more about yourself everyday if you try new things. And in time you will learn your true purpose or purposes for that matter.
I believe that society has led us to believe that we have to choose ONE career in order to be successful, that is not true, you can do more than one thing as long as you prioritize and work your butt off. We should not defined by our careers. Our careers are just one part of who we are. You are more than just a job. Maybe you are a thrill seeker, a giver, a mother, a daughter, a friend, comedic, lovable, book-smart, whatever it may be, you are so much more. It is important to really enjoy life and the relationships you have with people, because at the end of the day and at the end of your life it will not matter how much you made, what will matter are the memories you have. So 20 somethings of the world if you think you are alone you are not. So many of us have entered the working world; some in careers we have chosen some in careers that chose us, some still trying to find one, but don’t let where you are in your life discourage you. Take a stand and all the things you don’t like in your life, I challenge you to change it. Try, and if you fail okay, so what, try again or move on. It is going to be okay. And please remember that “Success is not measured by the position one has reached in life, but rather by the obstacles one overcomes while trying to succeed.” (Booker T. Washington)
A 20 something on the road to self discovery
Hey guys and welcome to the new and improved “I Want My Kisses Back” blog. I know I have been MIA for awhile and I apologize. I recently moved and have been working on a few things on the site. I want to talk a little bit about why I created this blog and about some changes that I have decided to make. In 2011 I launched this blog because I wanted an outlet to reach other people who might have been through the things I went through. I wanted to engage in conversations about healthy relationship choices and really connect to other people. I had been in a very bad relationship on and off for a few years and I lost myself.
My blog began my journey of self discovery; my journey to finding out who I am and taking my soul back. Most of my articles talk about dating and relationships but recently I realized that for me life is not just about dating, but so much more. Before I started my blog I obsessed about finding, “The One” when I should have been focusing on discovering ME. Now I as I continue on this road to self discovery I want to share that with you all. My blog will now feature posts on, career, being a 20 something, health, loving yourself and really embracing all parts of life. I believe all of these things are connected and affect the relationships we do have, so instead of just talking about one category I have decided to talk about the many different aspects of life.
I hope to help those in anyway I can and really open the floodgates for self-growth and self-love. I am not a guru or an expert, I am just a young woman who wants to share her experiences in hopes of touching someone else and promoting positivity. Also I will be launching a youtube channel that coincides with this blog, and I hope you all subscribe. My first video will be up this week. My channel is iwantmykissesback and can be located at www.youtube.com/iwantmykissesback. I will be posting the videos on my blog as well. If you have a topic you want to see on my blog or youtube please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. You can follow this blog on twitter @iwantmykisses and like the facebook by clicking the link in the sidebar. Thanks for reading and Welcome to the New and Improved “I Want My Kisses Back” Blog!