Don’t Text Me When You’re Bored or Lonely

rsz_img_0197Don’t text me when you’re bored or lonely. No seriously I mean it. Have you ever gotten a text from someone and had no idea who it was, because you had deleted that person’s number years/months ago because things never worked out? Well this too often happens to me. I don’t know what it is with some guys but I will date a guy or just talk to a guy and we won’t talk anymore for whatever reason and then boom I get that random hey whats up text (-_-). Who are you? No seriously who are you? Cause I am not the one you hit up when you are lonely or bored and I will call you out on it. Too many times people think that they can just hit you up out of nowhere because they need to be entertained. Well if this has ever happened to you I want you to tell that person to entertain themselves, go play with a yoyo and kick rocks with open toe shoes because you know your worth.

                     I am going to talk about two instances that happened in which I was completely puzzled. A few months back I got a text and it said “hey whats up Leslie”, I felt bad because I didn’t know who it was, and the person clearly knew who I was and I didn’t have the number saved. So I simply said “oh hey i’m sorry who is this”, the person automatically was like oh forget it etc. They got salty because I didn’t know who they were. Feeling like I may have really hurt someone’s feelings I thought long and hard, I finally figured out who it was and didn’t feel so sorry anymore. It was a guy that I used to talk to, who pretty much wasted my time and who I hadn’t talked to in literally a year and a half if not more. Who does that? I get it if we are friends and we just haven’t talked in a long time or maybe your regretting your past or w.e. But if that’s the case, call me, don’t text me and also if you didn’t treat me good before what makes you think I will just be so ready to jump when you say so. I am not the person that you call after scrolling through your phone while drunkenly reminiscing about the past and you yes YOU reading this shouldn’t be either because you are NOT THE BACK UP PLAN.

The other day I got a text from yet another number I did not know, from someone who I never actually dated or talked to. We met like once, exchanged numbers and nothing really happened and yet boom out of no where they wanted to know how I was doing after years. Pause, WHAT? What are you doing? Stop it! I wasn’t even mad, just a little annoyed. I am not the random booty call and I am not someone who is here to entertain you when you are bored. And you know what, I would appreciate it if people were just honest. I rather you tell me upfront honestly what you want instead of you “BS’ing” about it. This happened to one of my close friends. Some guy who it didn’t work out with had the nerve to hit her up on some “I’m lonely crap”. I appreciate his honesty but if it was me he would have got shut down right then and there. She proceeded to tell him that she had a boyfriend and then he pulled the you’re right I have a girl card too. Stop lying. The truth is he felt played and so he attempted to protect his integrity. But see the thing is his integrity died the moment he wrote “I’m lonely” after years of talking expecting her to jump cause he was now bored and available. The point of this post is to let you all know that you are worth so much more than a RANDOM text. And someone should contact you with true sincerity and not just for the sake of being entertained. Personally I rather someone call me, be real and not pretend like things didn’t hit the fan before. You are amazing, beautiful and a prized possession and don’t you everrrr forget it. Thanks for reading guys.

6 thoughts on “Don’t Text Me When You’re Bored or Lonely

  1. Ugh. This guy snapchats me. N hes always so boring. N ramdomly snapchats me saying im bored. N when we chill. He has nothing to say. No personality. I txt n txt him. But he rather snapchat. N hes so boring. Hes nice n cute. He has that goin for him n I wanna comnect with him deeper. But he doesn’t say much . He has me so.pist.

    1. honestly it sounds like this guy is not interested. Why waste your time? You are worth more than that, and honestly you said it yourself he is boring. If he can’t even muster the energy to write you a message other than “im bored” then he’s not worth your time. He seems like he simply looking for someone to entertain him on his days of boredom, pretty lame if you ask me. What you could do is ask him if he is interested in getting to know you better because you want to get to know him better. See what he says. Also try calling instead, as I think it is hard to get to know someone on a deeper level through text without being face to face or phone conversation. Thank you for reading hun!

  2. What I find hard to understand is that guys only talk to me when they’re bored or have split up with their girlfriends, I constantly feel like second best but I never encourage it! I am a loyal, well respected woman who has high hopes for the future but men only message me when they’re bored. It gets my back up because men just think that you can adjust to someone walking in and out of your life. That’s definitely not the case, but why do I seem to get guys only texting me when they’re bored? Can’t I get a real loyal man who genuinely wants to talk to me?

  3. Yeah, I’m dealing with the same thing. I am blunt about it and have told him how I feel more like an option if anything because he never calls but texts randomly. He always tries “reassuring” me that’s not the case and every time I tried breaking it off because I confronted his ass about him playing games he starts apologizing and what not. This only has been happening for a month, and now that I look back the pattern is so obvious and never have I felt so confused and stressed out. He says a lot of things, but come on now.. his actions speak for themselves because he’s even flopped before to meet up and excuses are his shit. He’s been late to dates, and he’d choose his friends over me. It just makes me feel like crap at times because this person doesn’t even have the maturity level to tell me he isn’t looking for anything with me but instead tells me exactly what I want to hear and has led me on. I do believe it is my fault too though for allowing it, but man he was so up my ass in the beginning and consistent that I go… wth happened? He’s clearly a fboy and was just doing it because I wasn’t into him at first. Now that he got me, or whatever he’s comfortable with going ghost. Idc anymore tbh, because I learnt from it and it was only a month. It just makes me feel like shit though because I question well… was I not good enough? I got passed over, lied to, was told the dumbest excuses… and I know it’s a trap to think that because that’s what starts the cycle again and that’s exactly what he wants me to believe. I just wanna go NC on him too and end it for good. I just feel like an idiot though… idk why, and he’s probably entertained.

    1. YOU ARE NOT AN IDIOT AND YOU ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH. Stop contacting this guy. Block him. And move on. I know it’s easier said than done but you deserve better and you need to realize that and start acting like it. It doesn’t matter how awesome he was in the beginning, he is not treating you right, right now. Don’t you want to be with someone who treats you well consistently? I do not know about you but I would not want a man who treats me well at first and then changes up or goes ghost. If a guy goes ghost on you he can stay gone. That is beyond disrespectful. Who wants a fricken houdini? NOOO ONE You deserve a man who would never put himself in a position to lose you and who you don’t have to play games with to care. Him being late to dates shows that he doesn’t respect your time. I would leave if a person was super late on a date and did not inform me of what was going on. Your time matters. Why would you want to be with a guy who chooses his friends over you? I understand wanting to be in a relationship and enjoying the attention that comes with that but you have to have standards and stop settling for crumbs. Do not settle just for the sake of having a relationship because you will be with someone who treats you like crap, and I rather be single than that. You have to be content alone and make sure that you have standards and do not budge on them. I know this is easier said than done but I was there and you waste a lot of time on guys who don’t care about wasting your time. All of that time could be spent on yourself. End it and move on. He is not the one. There will be other guys who are interested in you but you need to focus on yourself and get to a place where you completely love who you are and if someone doesn’t accept it, appreciate it and respect it then they have to keep it moving. I wrote a blog post on my business website about embracing your high value and attracting high value things and people, check it out (You are amazing, stop letting this clown define you and waste your time)

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